Motivation Psychology

 
 

Motivational ideas you can use yourself to enhance your business, yourself and your happiness. Negotiating your success is all down to how you negotiate with yourself. How you talk to yourself.

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Blink - interesting book

Blink – The power of thin slicing – Malcolm Gladwell

A fascinating book I would recommend to anyone with that curiousity about life

Split second judgements that make the difference. This book is all about those moments when we know something without knowing why. It explores the concepts the author calls blink or thin slicing showing how snap judgements can be more effective than a cautious decision


Psychologists call this part of the mind the “Adaptive unconscious”

Issues that caught my eye.

Car salespeople in US – – Spot the sucker – somebody who pays the asking price is called a LAYDOWN
People who negotiated were put into 4 categories and the results were amazing. The survey showed these people on average paid this amount over the Dealers invoice price
White men $725
White women $935
Black women $1195
Black men $1687
Strange reflection on how colour and sex made a difference

Marriage Morse code – There needs to be at least 5 -1 ratio of positive emotions in a positive relationship. Contempt and disgust effects immune system – women are generally more critical - men more stonewalling

Height salary study - Timothy Judge 58% of CEO’s in Fortune 500 companies are over 6ft
Yet only 14.5% - of people in US over 6ft.
1 inch of height said to be worth $789.
This means that smaller people have to compensate for their lack of height like Jack Welch (5ft 3") with other skills

Coke v Pepsi – Pepsi won in blind tasting – yet coke was preferred in reality.
Blind tasting didn’t take into account, advertising, colour of can, which intuitively effected people taste in reality.

Face is an equal partners in emotions – "the mind body connection"
Test – Put pen in mouth –forces a pout
Put pen in teeth – forces a smile
Research found the same cartoons funnier with pen in teeth forcing a smile.

Paul Ekman world lying author watching Kim Philby the Russian spy found in a split second he was smirking at people in contempt. This was below everyone else's level of awareness.

Optimum arousal – 115 to145 heart beats a minute – over 145 – things become difficult 175+ cognitive skills don’t work
At 175 heartbeats - non essential stuff doesn’t work – controlling bowels………….

Supercoaching - my highlights

Supercoaching - Graham Alexander and Ben Renshaw

Excellent book which I would recommend to anyone in a coaching or mentoring position. Some takeaways that triggered some thoughts.


"Coaching is all about helping people fulfilling results in their professional and personal lives."


Three quotes

“Your prime purpose in life is to help others” Dalai Lama

“A goal properly set is halfway reached” – A Lincoln

“We want to achieve successful, measurable outcomes”- G Alexander


All high achievers in any walk of life, sport or business have coaches / mentors

There were 10000 business coaches in US – it is predicted there will be 50000 by 2007.

Tiger Woods paid Butch Harman $1m a year to be his coach when he was world number one golfer.

The word mentor came from Greek mythology . Odysseus gave the responsibility to his friend Mentor to teach his son while he was travelling.


There are 4 Inputs of a coach
1 - Ask questions
2 - Playback and summarise
3 - Make suggestions
4 - Give input - feedback


Types of questions
Open – What – How
Closed – Did – should – would – will have – is
Specific – When – where - which – who – how many – how much –
Analytical – Why

Words to use and not use in coaching
Judgemental – words not for coaches
Ought
Must
Have to
Right
Wrong
Good
Bad
Non judgemental – words for coaching
Could
Can
Maybe
Perhaps
Consider
Possibility
Option
What about


What is good life?
1950 – 2005 – in Britain and in Australia – despite being richer people generally are unhappier.

Material wealth seems to make people more isolated.


The pressure and need for both money and time are causing such a conflict that stress levels are at their highest recorded level. 75% GP appointments are stress related costing the NHS £3.7bn in 2004. Coaching can help you and it can help you help others


“Does life ring a bell and we salivate”– stimulus response. Care

P
erformance issues a coach might include
Heightening self awareness and self management
Developing astute relationship management
Building strengths and mitigating weaknesses
Accelerating results and clarifying decisions
Improving execution of the task
Being receptive to learning and development in general
Focusing on new skills and capabilities
Increasing enjoyment and satisfaction


May 2006