Make sure you are grounded

I attended an NLP workshop this weekend. We learnt an exercise to make sure you are grounded, firm and solid before you handle difficult situations. Take a deep breath and imagine your centre of gravity is 3 inches below your navel, which is where it is: except we often, particularly when we are under pressure, think it is in our head. Concentrate on this point. Plant both feet on the floor balanced. Make your back long - now you will feel more confident.

extra $3000 fee

One of the delegates (Julie)that attended my workshop at the Australian Speakers Conference in Melbourne has just told me that she made an extra $3000 on one fee last week. Taking my advice she doubled her fee from $3000 to $6000 and prefixed it with the word "normal". She said my normal fee is $6000. After a few seconds the client said that's OK. Wow

Waking up in the middle of night

Believe it or not this happens to most people. Often it is caused by our unconscious mind remembering something important that we haven't done, an incompletion from yesterday or an issue we haven't prepared for tomorrow. Another alternative is something that we should be taking action on in our lives, but have left it simmering.

Solution - When you have an issue going round in your mind in the night, take action. Get up and write the issues down on paper. Alternatively if its something you want to remember in the morning, again write it down. If it is something you should have done but haven't, either get up and do it, or again write it down with clear actions that you are going to do in the morning.

There is nothing worse than letting it simmer as you lie there. The issue blows up out of proportion and you don't get back to sleep. Action is the key.

Handling Stress

Stress in moderation is good for us. We need to be stretched to perform at a high level, think of stress as like a rubber band. Some tension is needed to do the job properly. However too much stress is not good for us and we wouldn't want the band to snap. Usually stress is caused by not being in control of a situation or ourselves. If this is the case stand back and have a look at the situation, quietly on your own with piece of paper or with someone else, a coach or a trusted confidante. The situation is never as bad as it seems to us, and usually we just need to take some positive action towards clearing the issue that is causing us the problem. Action is the key.

Only 1 in 100 of Psychological studies are on Happiness

Up to 1990 there were no studies into happiness. All research was to help people who had serious psychological issues. The Californian psychologist Martin Seligman then decided to research what made people happy. His research clearly shows that people who have future goals, targets and help people are much more happier than people who don't.